I used to think the whole meaning of life is having a perfect life, a perfect women, perfect student, perfect employee, perfect girlfriend .so i started searching for a top colleges to do my Under Graduation , a ideal job but everything which I thought will lead a perfect life isn’t the way in reality, I felt unhappy, depressed and anxious, I come to know what I searched in all this years is meaningless because i grown up with the culture were everybody listens to the story of successful person but nobody knows the story of failure. we believe the words of the successful people and follows their path ,every living in this world is a reflection of some one’s life ,but is this makes you a truly happy and satisfied person?? NO. there is always a emptiness in every person.
we’re always in a rush of settling in our life ,i used to dream more about my life how it would be ,how i’m going to work , future plans and all, to engage myself at everything.
I think, how well we create our surroundings is matters more ,because in our young days all of our thoughts is connected to the higher reality ,we think beyond our limits, we believe having a good job with a good pay will satisfy us .we thought happiness is buying something which makes us feel happy but it’s not,it feels less about what you want than what you give .
In our society , first of all to lead a happy life ,we just want to do what we’re interested ,but in our culture,if you score a good mark, you don’t get a course what you looking for, whether you gotta a course you have interested in, you’re not able to go for the job related to that ,everything is lack of time, lack of decision making ,we’re just going with the flow .
Our culture is obsessed with happiness , we give more time to find a path of our life than being happy. i believe finding meaning of the life makes your path fulfilled . happiness puts you in comfort zone and live in the moment. So we feel difficult to stepping out of our ease life. Most of us disrespect a lot of people who initiate to talk with us …..we reject them without realizing it by checking your phone when someone is talking to you ,and through facial expression ,we’ve lack of paying attention to the present.
I always laid back in any relationship . I’ll create a strong bond with each other, but after sometimes I stop talking with them but i still have the same love and bond just beacause I feel depressed & anxious of other stuffs in my life that distracted to affect my present .after then I came up to them but they’re become changed person, then it’s end up with guilt.
Life gives you a purpose , something makes you live for, someone to their family , someone to their children or to their own selves and for some WHY NOT that moves you forward . sometimes your own selves feels helpless. At one time I’m completely involved in the stuffs that I love to do (writing ,family, friends, my work)i get so in the zone without realizing the time and situation but the very next moment I feel like I’m done with all this.
I think the mixture of emotions in every phases and the experience you gain from all can change you. This will create a story of yourself to tell about yourself. To understand who you are, every events in your life made you a different person, you’ll find a new meaning of life after your graduation, after a love, after a break.
We’ll tell stories about what you lost and what you gained , it’s all about bad is redeemed by the good . I’m hopeless in my life before a years but my growth and purpose of living creates a hope in my life.we can edit, retell a story , some people get help from retelling their stories , we can interrupt our stories into different situations , we find a solution of unsolved puzzles by applying our experience into the new situations ,which we forget to solve in our past, but we refilled it by various situations, how your defining experience shaped you, living a meaningful life takes so much work , you can’t change a story in overnight. It takes time, years after all self – realization we constantly creating our story into the track, sometimes it get off track. The chasing of happiness can make people unhappy, everyone say that happiness is success but for me happiness is how I move on with all odds in my life, you can be anything in this world, YOU DECIDE.