Me vs everyone

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Okay…this is one of my strange experience, ever since in my teenage everybody’s usual question is,

what’s your life goals?

Are you single?

Why you are not committed yet??

Are you in break?

Oh really you won’t marry are you going to be mother teresa??

On a very serious note no one can be someone, maybe the way of thinking will be same. It’s common that every single person you met will not going to be same, some likes to talk, some likes to annoy, some will be crazy and weird. I’ll behave according to their mood swings. I don’t know why but every person who asked about my life goals after I replied to them, they were just look at me one sec and started laughing, I’m clueless. I said” I want to serve people who are all needy and suffering, I just want to start NGO or trust organization or in any way I can help them “ I heard the big gaint laugh from the person who stands in front of me, seriously is that funny??, I don’t even say I want to be mother teresa I know it’s funny no one can deserve to be imagine like her,ever since I used to be mocked by the people for this answer. Maybe my goals is different from yours, because my choice of living or the way of I see things is not same like everybody. Is getting married then having children and pampering them is the life goals means?? very sorry, I’m not that type.

The main problem with this human kind is we trust and do everything what’s our ancestors told us decades ago ,our grandparents insist their children the way of living and the things what you do and what not to do in their period so our parents follows their way and they forced us to live in that way and told us this is our culture, see first of all culture is teach us to how to behave but our culture is not given us any chance to behave we are so controlled and exploited by the society that’s not even give the rights to speak out what you thought, even if you speak people are against your thoughts they think your way of thinking is gonna spoil others, yes…it’s has the strongest truth it’ll make people think so maybe that’s why, they scare when some women’s are talks about feminism a lot, let me know how many of you guys likes the way feminist talk?

There is a life out there, things you can do to yourself, people always see me with a pitty face that I was like homeless child, because I don’t have boyfriend. then they’ll give me a bullshit life lessons that’s not gonna help in any of the way, I was used to listen because I don’t have a choice because I don’t like to spit on people face directly I know that’s so rude.

I’ve many friends I realize through the long-term research, the person who loves everybody will not loved by anyone, maybe very little percentage of people can nice to them but that’s also not for a lifetime agree???, this kind of people like me always want a forever kind of, they were not so attracted or giving the space in their life for the temporary stuff, they want everything to be a epic, they are broad minders even any small things can’t affect them because they’ve the faith in themselves that they’ll makes things work out even it gets worse.

And finally, everything ends up with marriage even yourselves, whether you’re upto this or you hate this or you’re not mentally ready for this marriage and stuff, people always dig at your life and they’re so involved in this period more than you. I usually influence my friends to not get married they’ll always scared of me when I’m started talking about this topic, because i’ll say all possible strange things what will happen after getting married then they get confused, yes…I’m evil minded but never mind that, if you’re truly connected to something none of the negative thoughts affected you’re relationship at any cost. I’m used to be independent and happy under no one’s control so it’s difficult for me to depend on someone, and I don’t find marriage is serious stuff like everybody’s you’re not complete women if you’re not get married, seriously, is that how this gonna work?? I feel incomplete if I’ve a chance to reach my destiny(goal) but I missed that so closer, that’s gonna break me down instead of any of this stupid, meaningless question you ask.

I never said don’t get married and I’m saying marry when you find someone truly who can’t throw out your dreams and goals outside into the garbage, marry them if you feel the same way after thousand years, marry them by knowing what they’re inside, marry them only because you love the same way they do.

can anybody gone through this situation???

i’m beginner to blogging so comment anything related to improvise my writings will help me to find out the mistake.

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63 Comments Add yours

  1. Nirant Gurav says:

    Wow u wrote it beautifully . Lot of stuff & very much readable ,cool keep going mate ✔️💯

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    1. Thank you nirant 😃

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      1. Nirant Gurav says:

        Pleasure always 😉🎀

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      4. Nirant Gurav says:

        Thank you for your sweet words 💙😊🎀

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  2. SunshineBaby says:

    I enjoyed your post. I am single also. People always ask me if I am dating, I don’t date. And I am happy with my life – just like this. I work, I help others, my heart is full! When the time comes, and the right guy – you will know 😊

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    1. Of course buddy…!!we all meet someone but what I’m saying is our life shouldn’t end with this right???we’ve our own stuffs to care about and I don’t find this is a serious issue more than my life

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      1. SunshineBaby says:

        Exactly, enjoy life. It doesn’t evolve around meeting someone (or not). It is not an issue in my life, and that’s okay. I did a similar post a couple weeks ago… There is so much emphasis on dating and finding someone. People don’t understand that some are content just living life.

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      2. Obviously…I’m glad that you understand

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  3. Taruna says:

    I am married and I say don’t make marriage a goal.. it should be a byproduct of a good relationship…

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    1. Very true…!! That’s what I’m saying marriage is not a goal

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  4. Abdul Gani says:

    What you wrote is perfectly amazing for you.. We go through different life phase, I have been through this phase.. What I have learnt is Instead of telling them my dreams and goals, I am achieving them One by one – So now they know What Abdul was up to, and it was not a thing to laugh..

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    1. You inspire me Abdul…!!! I’m happy that you came across all the obstacles.

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      1. Abdul Gani says:

        That’s true people don’t understand our purpose and goals ! but when we understand ourselves, we don’t need to explain others ! When that WHY in life is clear the results will be outstanding !

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      2. Lol yeah… they never understand what you said is true

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      3. Abdul Gani says:

        They will understand when we will purse our dreams without showing it off !

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  5. aruna3 says:

    Most welcome,dear!!on my blog with love.

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  6. aruna3 says:

    Most beautifully written dear!!

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      1. aruna3 says:

        Most welcome,dear!!

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  7. Wonderful post.
    The thing is you are the second Sandhya Josephine I know, same names WOW!

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    1. Wowwww…is it??😂I would love to know her

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      1. Yes! She is a junior from my church

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      2. That’s great buddy

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  8. I realised I could not comment on your tag post.

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      1. I am not really sure. I tried commenting but the comment bar does not appear

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      2. Yeah penny ,the same problem happen to me hours ago 😂

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      3. 😂 Then I guess I should wait

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      4. Try to resend it buddy😂😃

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      5. No buddy, I am not even able to find the bar to type my comment

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      6. 😐😐😐oh gawwd…I’ve no idea penny we’ll wait for sometime

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  9. nagstrong12 says:

    “let me know how many of you guys likes the way feminist talk?”
    I feel like people somehow spoiled the word FEMINISM. The problem with some of the self-propelled feminists is that they see women higher than man. Treat men as ugly creature. For me, gender equality is what you called feminism. I keep her in my side to be equal, close to my heart to be loved.
    Good post sandhyajosephine😊

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    1. It’s not treating as a ugly creature buddy, if you know well about women you would know, maybe they’ve seen a lot men’s like that or the way they grow up by seeing men’s in that kind or the men’s they’ve met because of them they’ll assume like all the men’s are same,I won’t speak feminism here actually we’re not asking a equality what I’m saying is don’t try to stop us , don’t stand as a barriers to achieve our goal by saying our physical weakness as a main thing or don’t discriminate with all the family situation or Bullshit society rules that’s keep women’s into the single room, we’re all humans rights, every creatures in this world is created with a fault, whether it’s men or women anyway thanks for your response, I’m very glad that you liked
      Thank-you

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      1. nagstrong12 says:

        I respect ur thoughts😊

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      2. I respect your genuinity😃

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      3. nagstrong12 says:

        Thank you 👫☘

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  10. Praneetha Srikanth says:

    Hai sandya such a lovely post, well written. I too faced this type of situations in my life. I said i am not ready for marriage & needs time they laughed at me. They always say this is the right tine to marry 😃 how they will know that😂… Finally i found right person, I’m married now and living happy. Do anything in life when you like it otherwise don’t.. 😃👍loved all your posts.. welcome to blogging world.. thank you for following my blog.. 😃

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    1. I’m so happy for you praneetha😍you made your choice,thanks for reading and I love your blog’s

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  11. Anand Bose says:

    Very invigorating thoughts about your personality. Your goal to self realization is so fascinating. Anand Bose from Kerala

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    1. Thank you so much Anand😊😊😊, Kerala is one of my favorite places in the world

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      1. Anand Bose says:

        Please come to Kerala. You are welcome

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      2. haha….will come for sure

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      3. Anand Bose says:

        I could be your tourist guide if you want

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      4. Lol…sure will tell you

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      5. Anand Bose says:

        Thanks Sandhya

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  12. krish says:

    Beautiful narration of your thoughts…
    Yes one should do what he / she loves…
    I am also new to blogging….you are doing well…
    Regards

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    1. Thank you Krish😃your blog’s are fantastic,keep writing😊

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      1. krish says:

        Thank you Sandhya…just learning everyday..
        Regards..

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  13. Riman Ray says:

    Trust me, while reading I have the feeling that I have written this…each and every word of yours is what I believe..
    Same happens with me ..people ask me do you have a boyfriend? No? Why? And I’m like come on…is this really important to live.
    I don’t believe in the concept of marriage and having kids sacrificing your career or your dreams.
    So I can completely understand this
    Keep sharing dear 😊

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    1. Haha… thank you so much for reading darling… glad that you understand😃

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  14. Riman Ray says:

    My pleasure dear😊
    Glad to meet like minded people like you😊

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    1. Nice to know you Riman… will be in touch❤

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